I sometimes wonder, how somewhere along the road, we stopped being human and became these emotionless zombies walking around, indifferent to whatever was happening around us, so focused on making our lives perfect, and showing people how perfect our lives are.
But what does being human even mean? I couldn’t give you a precise definition. What I can give you, however, is this statement: our emotions make us human. It’s singing at the top of our lungs to our favorite song. It’s the tears we cry in the dead of night. It’s the anger that makes us slam doors and scream our lungs out. It’s those spontaneous bursts of expression where we can’t help but be ourselves that make us human. It’s the only way we can find purpose. The only way we can survive.
It’s as simple as that. So what happened to us? Why do we hide our emotions so deep inside and create this rock-hard shell to hide the fact that we’re broken inside? Why are we so afraid of being ourselves? It’s because we fear vulnerability. To express ourselves is to show people around us a little bit of what goes on inside of us. It gives them an upper hand because we think we’ve revealed a weakness. But let me be the first to say that being vulnerable is, in fact, not equivalent to being weak. Being vulnerable means that you have the strength to show people what you are. And that takes courage. A lot of it. Because it shows that you are human. And let’s be honest, who does that anymore?
People are afraid of being vulnerable, so they’re afraid of failure, or even trying in the first place. What’s left of them? By denying the very things that are inside of them, they become hollow shells, trapped in this prison they’re not even aware of. They become indifferent to everything around them. And that’s when they lose their purpose, when they stop fighting.
How do we get purpose back? You don’t need to feel like you have to create a masterpiece to be able to express yourself. It’s as simple as telling someone how you feel, letting someone know that you’re scared of something. Emotions are what make us human. They are what make us live. If I said “be vulnerable,” would you do it? I don’t think so.
But what if I said find something you love so much that you will never be able to keep it to yourself. Expression is not meant to be withheld. And with that, we need to take risks. In fact, to live is to take risks. Purpose comes to you when you’re willing to fall because whatever you love comes before everything you fear.
So this is my advice to you: find something you love more than anything. Something that is worth risking everything for. Don’t let any fear stop you. And that is where life is born.